Being a bridesmaid is better than being a bride

Don’t get me wrong; I loved my wedding, but there were a lot of opinions and personalities thrown in that weren’t helpful. Everyone’s egos got in the way and caused stupid amounts of stress. Several of my family members complained on Facebook or confronted me months later about minuscule details that I did or didn’t do correctly at my wedding.

It was all a buncha bullshit.

So when my sister asked me to be her maid of honor, I couldn’t help but be a little trepidatious. I’ve never been in a wedding besides my own so I didn’t know what to expect (still don’t), and I had a bad taste in my mouth from my wedding night. I knew it would be a good experience but there was part of me that was dreading the drama that comes with weddings.

Turns out I’m much better at being a backseat driver than being the … chauffeur? I’m not only enjoying helping plan stuff for the wedding, but I’m actually pretty good at it. lol who knew you could have a good time while planning a wedding?! Not like it’s the happiest day of your life or anything!

Side note, that’s probably one of the reasons why planning a wedding is so stressful. There’s this strong societal undertone that it has to be the absolute best day of your life. If it’s not, YOU FAIL. But that’s a topic for a different day.

Of course, even being a background actor in a wedding can be stressful. My sister’s soon-to-be mother-in-law is an absolute nightmare. She’s the epitome of a midwestern mom: nosey, passive-aggressively demanding, and knows exactly how to map out the perfect guilt trip for anyone who dares not bend over backwards for her every need. I haven’t even met the lady yet and I’m half dreading it, half excitedly planning snarky comebacks for her passive comments – because you KNOW there will be plenty of those. I gotta protect my sister, ya know?! and make some ~sick burns~ in the process mwahaha.

Enough about her though, she’s already getting way more attention than she deserves. (Would it even be a wedding if someone wasn’t trying to make it about themselves?!) There’s also the fact that most of the guests are traveling from out of state, including me and the other two bridesmaids. Because of this, we won’t have time to do a bachelorette party so I’ve been coming up with other ideas for something for us to have and/or participate in together. I’ll post more on this later, but I’m excitedly curating items for each of them AKA I get to buy things for myself too, some items which I’ve had my eye on for a few months heh heh shopping spreeee haci38idcpuape8u.

My allergies are making me groggy so I’m going to go to bed now. Oh! picking out a bridesmaid dress was also super fun, not that I didn’t have fun picking out a wedding dress, but it felt much more relaxed. We used Azazie for our dresses – highly recommend. My dress has pockets!

Don’t be a dick about someone else’s wedding.